Canadian
Dating Service is helping Canadian singles meet through online
personal ads. Canadian singles dating service for Single Canadians.
CONSIDER THE FOLLOWING QUESTIONS
WHEN LOOKING FOR A NEW RELATIONSHIP...
Does this love meet my needs for intimacy, passion and commitment? Have you explored what
is important to you? Is this a wise relationship? Do you have enough in common to make this
work?
Do you know enough about this person? Has there been full disclosure of relationship history,
lifestyles and the realities of their life? Have you followed up on hunches that gave you
reservations about your email partner?
Do you share a similar spiritual outlook?
When you receive a reply read the person’s ad. If you can see a photograph all the better. But
do not make snap judgments. The beauty of online dating is that it allows time to take a breath
in between dramatic episodes. It is easy to decide against someone because the known is
safer. A relationship is stretching yourself outside your comfort zone - that is what is so exciting
and rewarding about it. Many a relationship starts off in battle simply because the gulf between
them seems too huge. However, the attraction is there because of that huge gulf. A gulf you
must pass over to understand the other viewpoint that is so important for your personal
growth.
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Often, to simplify the lure of love, it can be explained in one word --
complementarities. A very long word that means we seek in the other the complementary part of ourselves. We fall
in love with what we are missing (and often don’t really understand we are missing it). A man
may fall in love with a woman because of her social graces and the community he desires. The
woman will fall in love with a man because of his sense of independence and the freedom from
community demands that she desires.
Having a partner is a tremendous opportunity for "seeing self" - the places where you are not
accepting show up, the places where you judge show up, the places where you love and don't
love show up. It takes real perspective and clarity to remember that your life is about
expressing your "self identity". Everything and everyone in your life is there to allow you to see
yourself and your belief systems. What a partner is committing to is not to feel "love" all the
time, because feelings come and go; but committing to love the partner, no matter how they're
feeling, committing to seeing the partner as whole and complete, no matter how they are
behaving.
So - take you time at this stage. There is a lot to learn.
Allow Canadian Dating Service to
provide you with the ability to meet that special someone in the
privacy of your own home.
Canadian Dating
Service: For Canadians by Canadians!
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